The Emotional Side of Home Selling
The decision to sell your home isn’t an easy one. In fact, research has ranked selling a home as second to relationship breakups for the most stressful experience in a person’s life. The same survey said Americans are more stressed out about selling their home than planning a wedding, getting fired or even becoming a parent.
In other words, it’s perfectly normal to have strong emotions. The good news? Though the experience can feel overwhelming and inspire doubts, it doesn’t have to get in the way of a successful home sale, and there's always a bright side. Here are three stories from homeowners that prove it.
The Story: Last Minute Memories
Nostalgia seems to unexpectedly hit many sellers like a ton of bricks once they see their home empty and ready for its next owner. Getting caught up in the chaos of moving can only keep your mind busy for so long before you realize what you are about to leave behind. Oftentimes sellers feel the rush towards the end of the process.
That’s exactly what happened to Erin, author of The Sunny Side Up Blog. She says, “I walked around room to room. I could see my baby girls running around in dress-ups. I could see our evening routine – giving them a bath and putting them in matching PJs. I could see so many sweet moments between my kids and how fast they grew right in front of my eyes in that house."
More than once I've had to comfort a teary-eyed seller at a closing. I've also seen photos posted on Facebook of seller's empty homes just as they were moving out. "This is where our Christmas tree was. These are the stairs we took all our first-day-of-school photos." and so on. I understand, it can be hard. Even though we know there is going to be emotional attachment, The Garcia Real Estate Group works with sellers to prepare their home from being a vessel of "personal family memories" to "a home buyers will love".
"It’s not hard to say good-bye to a house. It’s hard to say good-bye to special memories and to the end of an era. A really happy era that I will tuck away and treasure in my heart forever."
- Erin, Sunny Side Up Blog
The Bright Side ☀️
“Erin writes: "We feel so blessed to be in our new home, we are definitely going through a bit of a transition. I know it will just take time. I also know that someday, much sooner than I can imagine, I will be walking through the rooms of our new house feeling the exact same way.”
As a Haymarket area Realtor for over 15 years, I hear the same from the many sellers who I stay in touch with ... or run into on the soccer field or at back-to-school nights. They are always happy they moved and have started making new memories in their new home.
The Story: An Empty-Nester’s Adult Kid Confronts the End of an Era
In a story from The Atlantic on navigating how empty-nesters navigated the sale of a family home, the story of Alene Bouranova stands out. Bouranova grew up in Kirkland, Washington. She was at school in Boston, Massachusetts when she got the news that her parents had sold her childhood home.
We are seeing this all over the Haymarket area. Families have bought large homes in our amenity-filled neighborhoods like Dominion Valley, Piedmont and Lake Manassas. They have plenty of space to play, socialize, entertain and host many sleepovers! But, once the kids go off to college and move on, there are a lot of rooms to keep clean and heat, and a large HOA that just doesn't make sense anymore.
“I started crying in the dining hall, just crying all over my plate of pasta,” Bouranova says. “I was not pleased at all. That was my home.”
The Bright Side ☀️
Although Bouranova was initially emotional about the sale of her childhood home, she came to terms with the decision and understood the reason behind her parent’s decision.
“It’s my parents, and as sad as I was originally, it’s their lives and they can do what they want,” Bouranova says. “I just want them to be happy.”
We are seeing many Haymarket area sellers downsizing or relocating. It can be hard but, in the end, a home is where family is.
The Story: Moments of Doubt
Despite being a Realtor who has guided many clients through the home-selling process, Nancy Perkins was surprised by how emotional she felt when selling her family’s home of 19 years. In an essay for The Alexandria Times, she writes how she and her husband began to doubt themselves throughout the process after realizing the attachment they had not just to the home itself but to the neighbors and neighborhood.
“We started to doubt ourselves. Why did we need to make any changes when this house worked well for us? While we were ready for a new house, we were attached to our home, to our garden and to our neighbors.”
The Bright Side ☀️
“Like many of my clients, these thoughts kept me up at night. My fears were alleviated, however, with multiple offers, happy buyers and a quick sale, thanks to smart renovations, good staging and fair pricing.”
I meeI meet clients like Nancy all the time. They know it's the right time to move, but they still love their house. Whether it's for financial reason, job relocation or family needs, it can be hard. Our sellers can feel confident the The Garcia Real Estate Group will use our years of combined expertise and experience, as well as our state-of-the-art marketing strategy to bring in buyers and strive for the best selling price.
The Bottom Line
There’s no doubt that you won’t ever forget the memories you made in your home, but looking forward to the new memories you’ll create in the future and getting excited for what’s to come can put your mind at ease.
If you are selling in the Haymarket area and looking to stay in the region, we can make this process exciting by taking you on new home tours! The Garcia Real Estate Group Buyer's Specialists know this area well and we can help you find your NEXT dream home!